5 Qualities I want to impart to my child early!

Qualities must for my child

Must Qualities to impart to a child!

The world is manipulative, I find a swarm of narcissists all the time I walk in my life! But despite that what is elemental to me are some close cooperative friends and family who have made living life, a beautiful phenomenon. Being optimistic & full of gratitude is what I learnt from my parents & somehow life prompted me to continue the same qualities and attitude till day. It fills up my life with happiness, boosts my energies, calms me down and helps me cherish this fascinating life.

Thinking of all this, I wanted my kid to have a balanced “Emotional Beginning” & one day just listed out some feelings, I would wish my kid to have as a MUST in him.

5 Qualities I want to impart to my kid early in life!

1. Gratitude :

A heart full of gratitude is becoming rare in this world. “Why not thank your mom for  a yummy meal she cooked? or why not recognise your friend for her helping hand! Let’s go and say to mom that she still looks beautiful & see the glory on her face.”

Well that’s what happened to me! “Yesterday, while going for a family party, my kid suddenly came & told me that mom you are looking beautiful wearing this saree”.

I was excited, a near to 3year old kid & he appreciates me more than his Dad:). Really I’m smiling till now! It doesn’t costs one any penny but just gives a smile on someones face. Thanks giving & appreciation are the biggest offerings you can gift someone! Be generous in doing it, this is the biggest feeling I want my baby to develop & nurture through his life.

“Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings” – William Arthur Ward, Don’t you feel it is true?

2. Politeness :

Being Polite gives a sense of calmness in our lives. Kids are kids and they will for sure shout and fight as well. But in the end they need to have in the back of their minds to be polite and soft to all. I keep on reminding that to my child & it seems good to hear when he says me – “Mama why did you shout at me. Well I’ve stopped yelling at him now:). Power of politeness and Gratitude is immense. It will always prompt people to be more inclined towards you and you’ll always have good people besides in every phase of life.

“One of the greatest victories you can gain over someone is to beat him at politeness. Josh Billings”

3. Sharing :

Such a beautiful quote by Lord Buddha – “Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared”.

I’ve been freaking while teaching “Sharing” to my kid. He is so possessive of his things and mostly never wants them to be shared with anyone, specially with kids of his age. I saw that most of the kids at this tender age are insecure that their beloved things will go away if it will be shared. I have been practising “promoting sharing his favourite toys with his friends” so much from past 4-5 months, that now I’m seeing some positive outcome.

“The other day, my kid got a new double decker bus for his bestie and to my utter dismay he gave him lovingly, saying mama I will share it:). Indeed, I was happy to know that the seeds sown are transforming slowly.

A child can never practise what is taught only one time. What I learnt is, qualities & good gestures needs to be repeatedly explained to them, with practical experiences, by showing them how you follow. As they see they learn & imbibe these qualities in their lives.

4. Loving :

Yes, I want him to be loving towards his friends, family, animals & for all in this world. But this is not  a practical expectation as even I cannot be loving to all. But then, from the core of heart, I try to teach him to be loving to all. There will be some rude encounters, but rather than bogging up the brains in them & feeling negative, why not leave them there & channelise your energy into something creative & intellectual. Let me see how this goes as he grows up! To me, being loving takes you miles across the borders with so many lovely people always ready to hug you!

5. Loving doesn’t means being Extra Emotional :

I see that my kid is far more emotional. “When he listens to his rhyme – 5 Little ducks, he becomes sad when all the 5 little ducks get lost & Mother duck can’t find any. One day he started crying when this line came”! Gosh, he was getting that emotional. Since then, I have tried to control his emotions. I need to make him strong enough when emotional circumstances come across. I’ve started saying “No”, trying to be hard sometimes, making him explain what matters and what not! It seems to be a very practical journey but what I need to inculcate in him is “Mental strength” & a balanced EQ.

“Pull up a chair. Take a taste. Come join us. Life is so endlessly delicious.” -Ruth Reichl.

It doesn’t costs a cent to have these beautiful qualities, but they will fill our heart, body, mind and soul with immense optimism! And what matters is, when these qualities are being imparted; the sooner the better. Kids brains & hearts are so naive & pure. They don’t have anything filled in it. They’ll do what they see & learn from the surroundings. Let’s give them a confident & affirmative aura to grow to make world a magnificent place!

Happy Parenting!


Quest to live the life surrounded with the charming little bundle's of joy. When they speak, I sing, When they smile, I rejoice , When they hug, I hold them never to lose, Such is my passion for these Gifts of God.This love urged me to navigate separately from my Travel Blog & establish an "All-In-One" Blog for budding mothers. Mum's have multi-tasked this world ,with all her professional commitments , she still makes an extra effort to be a loving, caring and be an intellectual mommy! Cheers, for me too come from the same fraternity, post having a superb academics & close to 8 years of professional experience and blessed with a little one "who has indeed changed my life from Autumn to Spring";)

This Post Has 70 Comments

  1. Ashwin

    Those are really great qualities!! If every child has those qualities then it helps the society in a bigger way!!
    Well written!! Keep it up!!

  2. livanies86

    That´s a great list! I would love my children to have all that too! Especially politness and love

  3. Vladimir Covic

    The duty of both parents is to set their kid(s) on the right path. I think what you’re getting at here is definitely a right path.

    1. Jhilmil

      Thanks Vladimir, I’m trying my best to sow good seeds & let him see this at home as well! Let’s see how it goes!

  4. Mrs. Millennial

    All very good qualities, sounds like you’re doing this parenting this right!

    1. Jhilmil

      hey thanks, I’m just trying to sow the seeds, dunno how things will turn up!

  5. Tomislav Djukic

    I think sharing and politness are very important qualities to learn. ?

  6. Expertly Flawed

    These are ongoing qualities that need to be reinforced as they grow. I have pre teens and teaching them these traits means something totally different than when they were 5!

    1. Jhilmil

      Can understand since the environment changes, the influence changes. Reinforcement has to be there!

  7. Anmaria Djong

    Love all of these qualities for my child as well. But gratitude is the one that I really want her to have from now on.

    1. Jhilmil

      Yea, gratitude is the most important !

  8. abhinav

    Tips and points are all wishful, love to have but for this, children should get such an environment around them and not only at home. Parents can do their bit but things change and children grow and learn new things when they go out. I believe these tips apply and should be followed by adults first before we leave it as a legacy for the next generation.

    1. Jhilmil

      That’s correct, but the learning starts from home & then the environment matters! So if the kid sees these happenings at home he is bound to inculcate in him & yes it has to be an early start. Kids learn so much during there formational years!

    1. Jhilmil

      actually, these are so small signs to show your love!

  9. Amber

    I love your list and I hope my kids have these qualities too. I’m raising them to be kind people, so I hope it happens!

    1. Jhilmil

      Yea, we all try the best to help our kids imbibe some good qualities.. hope they learn & follow the principles!

  10. Haute and Comely

    Politeness sharing and gratitude are my altimate best. As for loving ,she would be a natural as we try our best to give her lots of it. Great virtues.

    1. Jhilmil

      Great to know! thanks for reading!

  11. Especially #5. I’m not a parent but I have lots of nieces and the over emoting scares me. I want them to express themselves freely without needed to amp up the drama! Great post.

    1. Jhilmil

      That’s really true, kids get too dramatic!

  12. Gidokblog

    All 5 qualities are very important for every child to embrace.

  13. Raising a child seems difficult, but of course very rewarding! I hope I am a good parent someday 🙂

  14. Radhika Mundra

    You’d be blessed if your child does have these qualities, and the world would be blessed to have such a person.

    1. Jhilmil

      As parents, we need to help inculcate them, rest it all goes as what a child sees!

  15. Pooja Sharma

    It’s very important to impart these qualities, I agree but I thing one more thing important to teach them is how and to whom express sharing, politeness etc to. Some people just misuse them and I think kids should know about that too.

    1. Jhilmil

      Yea, that’s really true, but for this Kids will first have to attain sense of maturity to understand the people!

  16. babyhenrylikes.

    I agree with this so much! I want my children to be good people! If I raise little brats, they will grow up to be big brats. That’s not acceptable to me.

  17. Some good qualities. I think gratitude and love are extremely important! If I ever have kids, I will be sure to impart these qualities too! 🙂

  18. karan

    Great article, nice tips for moms

    1. Jhilmil

      Its not just for moms, rather for both moms n dads to give the kid a good learning experience:)

  19. aniahalama

    This is a great list of qualities every child should have. I love that you’re aware of this now so you don’t spoil and smother your children. If I have kids I want them to have the same qualities.

  20. pinkiebag

    Hi, great things that you want to impart to your child. Gratitude and politeness can sometimes get forgotten but are so important.

  21. pileupblogs

    That’s great if a kid learn it early then it make him more humble in future

  22. hdpreeti

    I think many parents confuse loving with spoiling and that’s why one sees so many kids who are impolite and bratty .Great tips Jhilmil !

  23. chelf

    Loving doesn’t means being Extra Emotional is a lesson worth learning. So many people struggle with that today including myself. I should print that and keep it in sight as a reminder.

    1. Jhilmil

      Yea that is a difficult lesson but we need to love being practical.. Thanks for reading:)

  24. Danielle

    We definitely need more of these qualities in this world

  25. Mary

    If only more parents feel the way you do! I applaud you for teaching your child what is truly important, hopefully others will follow suit.

    1. Jhilmil

      Thank you so much Mary for coming by & appreciating 🙂

  26. These are great qualities to have! My parents instilled many of these by simply teaching me to say “Please” “Thank you” :Excuse Me” and when to say it. I learned to be loving my the warm hugs and selflessness that the exhibited everyday!

    1. Jhilmil

      That’s really great to know the good learnings by parents:)

  27. I think these are all great qualities for a child to have which will build their character and make them grow into wonderful and kind adults.

  28. asoulwindow

    I wish every parent thinks like that. Gratitude is most important for me. Children have impressionable minds and if they are given good values it is going to benefit them and people around them.

    1. Jhilmil

      That’s so true, parents must try out building these qualities!

  29. Dani Brooks

    Love this! So important to me that my kids are polite and can share as well!!! The biggest compliment I’ve ever received is how gracious my daughter is when at the peoples homes!

    1. Jhilmil

      Really happy to know this n such a beautiful compliment:)

  30. Courtney

    Gratitude is something I’m trying to teach my child as well!!! It is so important to be thankful for the thing you already have

    1. Jhilmil

      That’s really great to know that such teachings are being followed in the world:)

  31. Anosa Malanga VA

    Couldn’t agree more! Probably this is also the things I would impart when I become a mom.

  32. Gratitude and Loving are on top of my list. A loving child especially to his/her parents is also a child who has the quality of being respectful to others. I also want my child to be God-fearing.

    1. Jhilmil

      Yes, God fearing is must for kids to step on the right path in this world. I’ll have to start working on this. thanks for reminding me:)

  33. Laura Dove

    I totally agree with all of these. Politeness is a big one for me, I am very strict on my children when it comes to manners as I think if you have good manners in life you will go far.

  34. Aditi

    I completely agree with you, all these are basic building blocks for a kids growth, in my opinion. Thanks for sharing this post. 🙂

  35. Cassandra Rose

    Politeness and gratitude are two big things for me. I don’t have any kids yet but when I do, I hope that they understand the importance of treating people with kindness and being grateful for the life they live. Such a sweet post!

  36. Ellie Chan

    Gratitude is such an important one to teach young! I think in today’s world where there’s a lot of instant gratification it’s important to teach the value of things so you can be grateful for what you do have.

  37. Ana De-Jesus

    If I had a child I would definitely teach them the art of being kind and polite. Its important to say please and thank you and be thankful for what you do have x

    1. Jhilmil

      That’s true and this gratitude needs to be initiated right when they are very young.

  38. Elizabeth O

    If all parents made the effort to inculcate half of these qualities in their children, we might stand a greater chance of ridding our communities of hate and selfishness. That said, I applaud your effort and wish and your son grace and wisdom in all things.

    1. Jhilmil

      Thank you so much, atleast we can work on our part. Later thoughts change as kids grow and look at the world.

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